Photo by Katrina Brogan
Today, my daughter, Violette, is 9. This is the first year I wasn’t there in person on the day of her birthday, and that stings a bit. However, she and I have plans to celebrate together privately this coming weekend, so it’ll be all good.
I wanted to tell you a bit about Violette. This has nothing to do with sales or marketing, but it has everything to do with being human, and what I learn from my daughter. There’s value in that to some of you.
Violette, since early early childhood, had no interest in matching clothes. She loves mismatched socks, even shoes. She could care less what her fashion means to others (most times). I hope that she sticks with that mindset through school, even though it makes the going harder.
Violette is a comedian. She understands sarcasm and irony. The thing that’s funny to me is that her humor is very adult and it’s also very eclectic. We’ve taken to calling her Andy Kaufman, because she’s a bit of a performance artist. Now, she’s also very like Andy Kaufman in that her humor sometimes offends or scares or appalls or upsets the people observing it. And yet, it’s her humor. Know what’s even more interesting? She realizes this now, so sometimes, she warns us ahead of a time: “this is a joke,” she might say, so that we know not to get too angry too quickly.
Violette creates lots of art lately. She’s doing all kinds of styles, and most recently, that includes sketchbook work. The best thing about a 9 year old artist is that she’s bold and brave. She makes amazing pieces with perspective that I wouldn’t dare to draw, because I’m sure I couldn’t match the perspective. But when you’re 9, you’re willing to be creative.
Violette takes action all the time. She negotiates all the time. Every single day is a mix of bold negotiations that attempt to drive her towards something she wants. Some times, she wins. Lots of times, we agree to do something else instead. But she’s always bold in being clear on what she wants, and she’s also very clever at working on her missions.
Learn From Kids
I learn a lot from kids. When I founded Dadomatic, I felt very sure that lots of dads would have perspectives on things they learned from their kids. I learn every day from Violette and Harold, and I’m glad that others have the chance to get to know my kids, too.
So, happy birthday, Violette. I can’t wait to get home and see you. And I love you always.
Oh, and this is Harold at Violette’s birthday party (shot by Kat):